SAHM I AM: The Battle of the Lists
I love “to do lists”, I have them going at all times and it helps me to feel organized. When my husband comes home I love to run through all the things I got done, it helps me to feel like I had an accomplished day. Recently another type of list was pointed out to me, it’s called a love list. The idea is to make a list at the end of the day listing all the moments that were opportunities of love that I took advantage of. Let me give you an example of what my love list may look like:
- read the same book 5 times to my kids
- packed my husbands lunch so he didn’t have to
- answered the question why repeatedly
- let my daughter put her shoes on the wrong feet and waited while she fixed them herself even though it made me late
Get the idea? So that brings me to the title pf this post battle of the lists. While I want very badly to judge the worth of my day by a love list I find myself constantly judging by my to do list. When I am focused on my to do list my kids suffer because I become irritable when they are just being kids and it prevents me from marking things off my list. With all the recent upheaval the to do list has been more important than normal and guess what? I do not like the mom I have become, instead of laughing at or enjoying my daughters attempts to understand the world in their crazy kid way I have been irritated with how it slowed my progress. So this post is my reminder to myself to get back to judging my day with a love list and not a to do list. I will be happier and so will my kids and then my husband will come home to a happy home not a frustrated one!
What a great reminder and idea! I really needed to hear that. Thanks.
Oh I need lists otherwise I will completely forget everything! Seriously I have a notebook consisting of just lists that I can mark off when I’m done.
Some people might think it’s crazy, but it helps me feel accomplished =]
Glad to hear I’m not alone on the listmaking, but I too can get frustrated when I’m not making progress on the list. I like the idea of a love list. Hopefully, it will remind me to slow down and enjoy the special moments I get with my children by being home with them. Thanks for the idea!
I love this idea – thanks for sharing it. It’s the important stuff that I often forget.
I’m just like you when it comes to the to do lists. I think I feel it justifies my day? But thank you for the Love List idea. I LOVE it &, like you will try to focus on that rather than the to do lists. p.s. don’t be hard on yourself.
thank you, this was a great idea. I”m gonna def do this to
Reminds me of Oprah’s “Gratitude Journal” from years ago. LOVE it!