It’s funny, I never really thought about my family as being “too big” or really all that controversial. I make my choices and you make yours, I chose many kids you chose a few… end of story. I always heard people joke about it being a small family world not set up for big families like mine, but I never really felt it until this summer. This past summer while on vacation I suddenly felt like we were too big, too big to enjoy things others enjoy, too big to fit in and definitely too big to do normal things. Maybe it was just that I subconsciously avoided situations that could not accommodate us well thus avoiding this before but it took going on vacation with all 7 of us for me to finally feel too big. Let me tell you vacationing as a big family is hard, like really hard.
Suddenly I understood how people felt when they stuck out like a sore thumb. Suddenly I realized why some of my friends with bigger families said “that’s not an option for a family like ours” I just always thought they were being a bit dramatic. But here’s the deal most things anywhere you go are set up for 4 people with a max of 6, but you see we have 7. Even though my kids are young and small they still need a seat, need a ticket or take up space and I am starting to realize things are changing for us.
When we bought the bigger car I didn’t feel too forced, I mean many people with only 2 kids drive the same car I do by choice. As for restaurants they have a way to accommodate larger groups it just so happens my lager group is my immediate family. No it was family destination travel that broke me, it was the tiny hotel room. This summer was the first time that all of us in one hotel room was insane, like this has to be a fire hazard insane. My kids are young and small and it wasn’t the amount of sleeping space it was the amount of being space. Two days into our trip it hit me, we can no longer stay at places that only offers standard hotel rooms, we must have a suite. Someday we can return to these places when I am comfortable with 2 adjoining rooms, but not for a long time. We have been fortunate enough to rent houses with extended family on many vacations so we have not really done many single hotel rooms before and this was the first time since becoming a family of 7. I even spoke with a friend who writes a popular online family magazine,s he told me she planned on dong a piece on vacation places that are good for bigger families, she scrapped the article when she found none.
My husband and I came home from that trip a bit shell shocked, it was an awful trip for us. And that was the first time I took him seriously when he said some day we should rent an RV and travel. Years ago he said that and I laughed at him, I mean laughed out loud and said yeah right. Now it sounds luxurious and spacious and guess what. my friend with 6 kids bought a pop up camper this summer and was raving about it. I of course asked to rent it from her!
Of all the things having a large family has changed for me I never thought it would lead me towards dreaming of a shiny new RV…